Motivation

 Know What You Want

“They say you have to be hungry to succeed… Me, I’m starving.

This is a quote from an old co-worker of mine from my days in a video rental store. I thought it was incredibly corny. I almost laughed. Then I watched as he took the training  that I gave him and went on to earn the store manager position that I had expected would be mine.

I’m not bitter about that. At least, not anymore. You may have noticed I said he earned it. He worked hard, knew what he wanted and pushed himself to get it. I knew that I wanted the position, but it was something of a nebulous concept to me; it would be nice to be the manager I thought to myself, followed by a complete lack of action on my part. I did my job, sure. I did it pretty well, but I didn’t pursue the promotion the way he did.

Dreams are Awesome. Reality is Better!

Dreams are Awesome. Reality is Better!

You Need a Map

If I were to decide tomorrow that I wanted to go to California (because hey, why not?) I would get a map, grab my GPS and plot out my course with Google maps or something similar. I could point my car west and hope for the best, but that really wouldn’t be the best possible way to get where I want to go.

Unfortunately, many people do that with their lives. We all want to be successful, but how many of us ever really put much thought into it? The ones who reach their goals do. If you really want to get somewhere, you need to know where it is and what it looks like before you leave, otherwise you are going to get lost, frustrated and most likely, you’ll go back home and feel miserable about failing. Think about what you love, what you want to do and whatever it is that will motivate you to get there.

What Does Success Look Like?

What do you think success means? Are you a success when you have a huge home and multiple cars? Do you define success as the ability to take expensive vacations four times per year? Is success when you pay off that student loan that has been haunting you for years? Maybe success is simply not worrying how next month’s bills will be paid, or not having to wonder if you will ever be able to retire.

Much in the same way as you won’t go to the store to “buy something” without knowing what it is you’re looking for, you can’t be successful without knowing what success means to you. Maybe success is simply doing something that you love for a living. Whatever it may be, define it. Know what you want so that you can go get it.

It’s All Right There, Waiting for You.

Once you know what you want and how you want to get there, just get started. Once you set out for your destination, as long as you keep moving, you have to reach it eventually. The only thing that can stop you is if you give up. I am still moving toward my own goals, but I know I am getting closer every day. It is my fervent hope that you will start on your own journey.

I am here to help in any way I can. One of my goals in life is to reach out and help others succeed and avoid the troubles I have had. Please feel free to comment, ask questions, or make suggestions, either here or at  craig@startworkingforyou.com. I look forward to seeing you Start Working for You!

 

Craig

4 Comments

Jean Soohoo

That brings up several thoughts. To me, success means doing something I have aptitude for and getting excellent at it and, as a corollary, achieving some worldly success and helping others.

My second thought is I don’t think you necessarily have to enjoy what you’re doing IN THE BEGINNING, but the more you do it, the more momentum and then you get to where you enjoy it, it becomes easy. But until you practice enough, you won’t necessarily enjoy what you do, even if you have aptitude.

Third, I agree it’s vital to have some idea where you want to go, because if you don’t have a vision, not only will you be more aimless, but you won’t feel as motivated.

So, IMO, motivation in a nutshell is 1) being authentic to what you’re meant to do; 2) practice so doing it becomes easier and fun; 3) have a vision of the end result, say, in 5 years.

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Craig

I would agree with the notion that you can actually “learn to love” something as you invest time and effort into it. As a child, I was forced into music lessons that I truly did not want to take. I resented losing so much of my play time to not only attending the class, but having to practice at home. I was very resistant to it initially, but as I slowly began to develop a measure of skill, my views began to change. I began to appreciate and enjoy what I was learning.

I do believe, however, that the enjoyment of something increases the likelihood that one will stick with it through whatever challenges one might face. As the saying goes, “if you do what you love, you will never work a day in your life.” I may not agree with that 100%– pursuing what you love can be quite a bit of work, actually– I understand the sentiment and find it to be generally true.

I like how you mention “being authentic to what you’re meant to do.” I think that is a wonderful thing, though we aren’t always aware of what that might be. Finding out what it is can be a bit difficult. I believe that everyone has a talent, but as the wonderful Maya Angelou once said “there’s nothing special about talent. People waste it every day.” That might be because we fear to pursue our passion, or because we never really find it. My wife and I have spent a great deal of time trying to discover what our elder son is passionate about, but he is very non-committal to pretty much everything. Much like my experience with music, however, when he was put into karate against his will, he found he was actually very good at it and he advanced quickly, which in turn made him enjoy it…

So, ultimately, I suppose both approaches are valid. One can either pursue one’s passion, or perhaps struggle through early difficulties to realise a talent for something over time. The most important thing, however, is to simply try something.

Thanks for commenting!

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Jean Soohoo

One way to figure out what you’re meant to do is to get a numerology report. These days you can find it easily online. I got one and found it to be quite accurate. When you know what you’ve been dealt with at birth–both positives and negatives–you can learn to focus on strengths/talents while not trying to resist weaknesses, which would only cause difficulties (as was my past experience). With my numerology report saying that I’m creative yet reclusive, I no longer feel like a freak about the latter and feel good about the former.

Craig

I’ll have to look into that.

My brother once prepared a numerology report for my elder son, which took me by surprise because I had never seen any inclination that he believed in anything like that. It was actually quite interesting and, I would say, accurate.

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